29 December 2015

Is He Really Your Man? 6 Signs He Doesn’t See You As His Woman


Let's face it, nothing feels quite like having someone special in your life - a significant other to call your own.
But ask yourself this. Are you making the mistake of assuming you're in a committed relationship with a man you're dating?
The truth is, just because you're dating, enjoying each other's company and sleeping together doesn't necessarily mean he's on the same page when it comes to your involvement.
If you're unsure about where you really stand with a guy, these 6 tell-tale signs can help you determine if he's as committed as you are.
1. He Runs Hot and Cold
Does he exhibit unreliable and flaky behavior? This is often a good indicator that he's "shopping around."
If he appears totally into you one minute, then can't remember your name the next, his confusion is probably the result of him entertaining other options.

2. He Never Introduces You As His Girlfriend
If he's introducing you as "a good friend" instead of his "girlfriend," to friends and acquaintances, take note! More than likely, he doesn't view you as "his."

3. He Never Uses Romantic Terms of Endearment
Another tactic a guy may use to keep the relationship from seeming too serious is to use verbiage that conveys he sees his involvement with you as casual.
For example, if he always uses playful, yet neutral nick names such as "Kiddo" and "pal" instead of referring to you as honey, sugar or baby, chances are he doesn't think of you as "his woman."

4. He Only Wants to See You at His Convenience
If your involvement is lopsided and you're only spending time with him on his schedule and on his terms, then more than likely, you're not a priority for him.

5. He Doesn't Invite You to Special Events or Social Engagements
When a man is truly committed to you, he wants you to be involved in some of the activities he enjoys and functions that are important to him.
Not that you have to do everything together, but if he never asks you to come with, odds are pretty good that he doesn't view you as his lady.

6. He's Always "Missing In Action"
If you're constantly unable to reach him or consistently don't hear from him over several hours and even days, it's a pretty safe bet he's seeing other women.
Knowing where you really stand with a guy will not only prevent you from wasting time with a man who isn't ready or interested in something more meaningful; understanding that he may not see your relationship the same way will keep you from feeling betrayed and becoming disappointed and hurt. 


Realizing that you and he are not a couple also frees you up to avail yourself of other options and is a great way to let a guy know that he's not the only "bull in the stall."
This will get his attention and may even cause him to step up and stop taking you for granted.

13 December 2015

Three Things You Should NOT Do When Dating


Dating is no longer, what it used to be. You also have to realize that your boyfriend or girlfriend had his or her own friends’ priority to meeting you. 

Dating is about learning and exploring the possibilities that exist in a relationship and figuring out if the relationship can move to the next level. You cannot expect your partner to abandon his/her lifestyle to fit in with yours.

Here are three things you should not do when dating:
Don't Expect Your Partner to Give Up “Me” Time
Everyone deserves to have some “me” time where he or she relaxes and loosen up after working hard or taking care of business. Do not expect your partner will be around you 24/7. Your partner deserves to have some alone time where he or she can wind down without being disturbed. Every relationship should have time out where each partner can relax without choking the other partner up. 

Do not monitor your partner
Some people are fond of calling their partners up and when he or she does not answer the phone, they press the redial button immediately. Calling your partner too frequently is a sign of desperation (or insecurity) when there is no emergency. Your partner may be at a meeting at work or in-transit and cannot pick up your call. It may also be that your partner wants to have some time alone. Learn to wait for an explanation before charging and jumping to conclusions about his/her whereabouts.
Monitoring your partner’s movements or phone calls is a sign of insecurity. Do not try to sneak and check your partner’s phone every time it rings or ask who is calling. Do not try to be too clingy. It also shows some signs of insecurity. Allow your partner talk to whomever he/she wants to. 

Do not try to change or control your partner
Your insecurities may also push you to want to control your partner and expect him or her to take to your rules. Dating is more like trying on clothes to see which ones will fit you. You cannot try to change someone just to fit into your own ways. You either accept them for who they are along with their flaws or move on to find someone else. Trying to change or control someone is narcissistic and should not be encouraged. You can learn to understand your partner and work together to figure out how best to improve on your communication and relationship while building into one another.


If you find anything wrong, it is best to bring it to your partner’s attention by having an amiable conversation than an intense argument. It is okay to let your partner know about your fears (if any) and you both work at it together. Relationships are not rocket-science. It takes two people who know and understand each other while dating to make a relationship work.
Dating is all about trying to figure each other out, ensuring you both share values and are compatible. You also trust, love and are committed to each other. Your partner’s time should be valued as well as yours and respect each other’s space. The more you give your partner the space needed and build on each other, the deeper you give room for your relationship to thrive.