1 December 2011

5 Ways To Attract Positive Relationships Into Your Life

As we travel through our life's journey, many relationships will come into our lives. Some of them will be wonderful and long lasting; others, unfortunately, may be short term or unhappy.
Do you tend to attract more negative relationships than positive? Though we strive to develop good, solid, and happy relationships, it seems we sometimes end up with exactly the opposite. Wouldn't you love to attract more positive relationships? The good news is, you can!
Try some of these simple tips to enjoy more positive relationships in your life:
1. Patience. Wonderful relationships don't occur overnight. They take time to nurture and develop into something that's long lasting. To allow these relationships into your life, you must have the patience to let them grow.
  • When you begin a relationship that you perceive as being a positive one, don't rush it. You may be very pleased to see what develops down the road.
2. Believe that you're deserving of it. Be positive and avoid negative feelings or perceptions about yourself. Know that you deserve to have happy, stable relationships in your life.
  • If you begin to think negatively, you must turn these negative thoughts around immediately. Clear your mind and regain your self-confidence.
  • Remember, positive attracts positive. When you think positive thoughts, you'll be rewarded with positive results.
  • You'll ultimately attract positive relationships into your life with the positive energy you're giving off to others. So be a good example of the friend or partner you look to attract!
3. Be true to yourself and others. If you're not true to yourself, whether you believe it or not, others will sense this. Don't try to be something that you're not; this is a negative way of portraying yourself to others.
  • As mentioned before, positive attracts positive, but negative attracts negative as well. Show others your true self, including your flaws. They'll appreciate your open and willing heart and be able to form a strong bond with you more easily.
  • Be genuine to others and allow them to see your true feelings and personality. Trying too hard to act like someone else could lead to embarrassment for you.
4. Don't take relationships for granted. Remember to always give thanks for the valuable relationships in your life. They may not be as numerous as you'd like, but rather than complaining, be thankful for the ones you have now and have had in the past.
  • By professing your gratitude genuinely, you'll have an easier time attracting future positive relationships.
5. Be honest. If you're in a negative relationship right now, that will tend to keep positive relationships from coming into your life. Be honest with yourself and others. Make a conscious decision to either improve that relationship or end it. 

20 October 2011

How To Prepare For A Great Relationship

Love - to love and be loved - is one of the greatest joys of the human life experience. Unfortunately, it can also go very wrong. You could end up abused, neglected, and miserable - or worse.
It's important to make wise choices in your relationships so your experiences with love can bring joy and fulfillment to your life.
Letting your heart rule your head is romantic, but you can keep yourself safe, both emotionally and physically, by making sure your head is at least involved in the decision making. When it comes to romantic partners, spotting any red flags that appear will help you have only healthy, strong relationships.
Another important consideration is your personal desire for a relationship. What, specifically, are you searching for? Are you doing the right things and going to the places that will attract someone who's a good fit for you? Or are you just looking for anyone?
Finding the Right Person Through Understanding Yourself
When you're looking for Mr. or Ms. Right, there are techniques you can use that will contribute to your success in finding who you're looking for. The first thing you should do is to ensure you're ready for the kind of relationship you're looking for.
Here are some ways to prepare for a great relationship:
1. Be comfortable with being alone. Are you content with being on your own? Any romantic relationship you enter into should be because you care about that person and yourself. If it's only to avoid being lonely, it's probably not the best choice for you.
2. Know what you want out of life. When looking for a person to share your life with, you want one who shares your goals, dreams, and values. Avoid settling for less because your long-term happiness could be affected - and so could the happiness of your partner.
3. Stay focused on your goals. Giving up your dreams and desires for someone else seldom works well. Seek out a person who encourages you to pursue your dreams. When you've found one, that's someone worth paying attention to!
4. Remember it's not a race. Choosing someone just so you aren't alone is unfair to both of you. The person you're looking for will appear when the time is right. Avoid trying to force it. Your time will come, when you least expect it! As hard as it may be, try to be patient.

Wishing you success with dating on  www.sablackdiamonds.co.za 

13 October 2011

FIVE Online Dating Rules

1: The Site DOES Matter
The site you choose to join does matter! Each site will potentially have different types of people possessing different relationship goals and it’s important to know this before you sign up for the site. 
2: People DO Misrepresent Themselves
I know it’s difficult to fathom that some people lie but it’s true.  These lies can range in severity from over-exaggerations and twenty year old photographs to flat-out lies about their relationship status (you’d be surprised how many singles really aren’t).  You should approach online dating no differently than you would if a stranger walked up to you in a bar and offered to buy you a drink.  Don’t rush into anything.  A healthy dose of scepticism combined with a balance of expectation and reality will not only help to ensure your safety but will also increase your chance of success!
3: Different Places, Different Paces
It’s important to keep in mind that everyone has different lives outside of dating.  Be patient and understanding that some people don’t check their online dating email every day and you may not receive a reply right away.  I always recommend taking the high road when it comes to communicating online.  If you aren’t receiving responses in the amount of time that you’d expect don’t disregard the contact.  Take it as a sign that they may not be that interested, they simply have a slower pace or that the timing just isn’t right and move on.  You just never know who may come back around when the timing is better, but you’ll never know if you burn those bridges.
4: Perfect on Paper Isn’t Always Perfect
It’s important to understand that it’s ok to not be into someone for reasons that you can’t define.  Chemistry can be something that’s there right away and it can also be something that takes some time to develop.  In either case, if you’re not feeling the spark when you feel you should don’t drag things out.  You deserve a match that deserves you!  As always, a healthy dose of balance between expectation and reality is important.
5: Some People Won’t Respond
Online dating is much more anonymous than meeting people in the real world.  If you were approached by someone in public and they said “hi”, how would it look if you ignored them?  This standard does not apply to online dating.  You should prepare yourself to not hear from potential matches that you reach out to.  Try not to take this personally; it doesn’t mean that you’re undesirable it simply means they are not interested.  I would also advise against highlighting people in this area.  It makes you look like an idiot and will only provide you with temporary vindication.  Besides, you never know how busy someone is, or if your paths will cross in some other way and burning bridges is rarely a good idea.
Wishing you successful dating on www.sablackdiamonds.co.za

21 September 2011

Happiness is a Personal Choice – Make It Happen!

We shouldn’t spend our time worrying – we should search to find our own version of happiness.
Are you one of those people who feel it’s up to others to bring happiness to you, instead of going out and finding it yourself? If so, get ready for a long wait. Nobody, absolutely nobody, can make you happy – it’s a personal choice and only you can make that choice.
Have you ever thought . . . I’ll be happy if only he marries me, or I’ll be happy if only we buy this house, or I’ll be happy if only I get that promotion? Wishing doesn’t make for happiness, personal action does. Rather than wait on the sidelines for elusive happiness or contentment to find you, get out there and make it happen! Deep inside each of us is the ability and energy to make our lives wonderful. Of course we all have challenges, but it’s our outlook on life that will influence how we embrace those challenges.
No matter how many negatives may surround us, there is always, always a glimmer of hopeful happiness to be discovered. Choose to live and be happy in the NOW.
Three Essentials to Happiness in this Life:
·         Something to do
·         Something to love
·         Something to hope for

14 September 2011

Make the necessary changes with Confidence ...

Ever wondered why we hurt so much and sometimes just feel like we can’t move on emotionally? Why can’t we get those memories out of our heads and heart? The fact is, the more you try to stay strong, the more weak moments you have. The truth is… we are doing it to ourselves.

Why does love have to be so complicated? It doesn’t have to be but it does require work from both parties. The simple fact is that you cannot make someone love you. The more pleasant moments you create between two people regardless if you are just starting a relationship or trying to get back together, the better your chances at reuniting and learning to love all over again. Learn to build your confidence and self-worth BEFORE you start to create positive moments.
It is important to listen and not push. Anything you push hard enough will break. If your partner asks for time…give them all the time they need within limits. This is a very difficult lesson to learn but in the long run, there is someone out there that will be thankful every day and NEVER dream of leaving you. No one lives your life for you. Be careful that you are so busy trying to find someone to love you that I stop loving yourself.  Take responsibility for your own happiness and find the confidence within yourself to change for YOU.

28 July 2011

Why Your Peer Group Is So Important

In life, our peer group (i.e. the people we spend most of our time with) has a massive effect on everything we do and think. I can’t emphasize its importance enough; for example, if all-day, everyday you were surrounded by friends at the peak of physical fitness, who saw health as the most important thing in the world, it’s pretty likely that eventually you would start to change your diet and be healthy as well (if only to keep up with them!).Our peer group can spur us on to the greatest of heights, or pull us down and make it feel like there’s a chain around our neck anytime we try to improve ourselves. What we need to do is build a peer group that serves us. When we’re around people who have the same goals as us, who won’t let us off the hook, who check up on our progress, that’s what drives us to create the best results.

27 July 2011

Creating an Online Dating Profile

Writing a dating profile is not easy – I think there’s a science and art to it! I believe most guys think that just put up a few words on dating website and then the replies will come rolling in – nothing could be further from the truth!
Women seem to know how important a good dating profile is, while men, on the whole, don’t! First impressions count; especially in the dating game. So having a dating profile that generates a good response is the essential first step in finding suitable and interesting dates.
Writing a good profile is not easy; it takes time, practice and some tweaking.  When you register at any dating website, you will have to create a personal profile that reflects what you are like and what you are looking for. You have only a few paragraphs to do this, so every word should count.
My advice on how to create the best personal profile is simple: Honesty and Modesty.
Be selective of your photo.  Make sure it shows a good view of your face, and does not include friends.    Have fun, and enjoy the responses.  It certainly makes life's journey interesting!!